How to Overcome the Problem of Alcoholism
If you are also troubled because of some family member or someone close to you being alcoholic, then I will give you only one advice – just pray to God. This problem is not really our problem; leave this problem to God, then you will see what kind of miracle happens.
We women mostly try to become God of our husbands and think that I can stop him by calling and forcing him to come home at the right time. This is a truth – we can be friends of our husbands, but not God.
There is only one God – He is the invisible power, Shiva, or the one who is called by different names in different religions, who is the master of all of us. If you are facing many difficulties because of an alcoholic which are beyond our strength, situations which we cannot tolerate –
then this should be left to God.
We should not even describe such problems in front of God, because He already knows. We don’t need to tell Him what our problem is. He knows what is right and what is wrong for us. When we face such a problem where making decisions and handling it is beyond me, then we feel alone. We don’t need to cry in front of people with our problems. At that time we should ask that invisible power to tell us what should I do.
This prayer is not to ask for something but only for guidance.
True prayer is the one where we accept that we are completely dependent on God. We have an unbreakable relation with Him. Our real existence is only when we pray truthfully. With prayer we get the strength to understand our problems and difficulties.
Some people do not believe in God or in any religion, or they have lost their belief, which once even we had. Many times in despair we may reach the extreme limit.
How God Helps
When we cry out helplessly for help, we unknowingly start praying to some unknown invisible power that may free us from this unbearable burden. Many times we become so troubled because of our problems and confusion that we scream and cry to God for help.
But I tell you, He listens to our problem not through our shouting, but through our silence. When we are restless because of our problem, it is not the time to scream but to stay calm and ask for His answer – how can I come out of this problem?
Pray to that invisible power that only You can solve this, which is beyond my control. When we accept ourselves as powerless before the problem and hand it fully over to God, then we should not try to take it back into our own hands.
When you leave everything to Him saying – “Now my problem is in Your hands” – then He can take you out of it in a single moment. Then one day you will surely feel a miracle.
When you start believing in God, He Himself comes to hold your finger and walk with you, and with His help we can do anything. What earlier seemed impossible, becomes possible.
Like we may think that alcohol will never end in my house, but when we leave this problem to Him, then miracles do not take long to happen.
Prayer is actually a connection made with the higher power. It recognizes our helplessness and understands it. When we leave our problems to Him, He Himself stands as a shield with us.
Prayer is such a contact which we make with God through our thoughts. It is a powerful medicine for the soul. When there is no one in life to guide us, at that time prayer is the most powerful.
Acceptance-
Now we have to accept that we cannot control the alcoholic. We can only pray to that invisible higher power, and one day He surely listens to the true prayer and accepts it.
He has a very deep and sacred relation with us. Now we have to understand how important prayer is in our life. Prayer is made from our thoughts and mind. Prayer does not mean that we order God, “Do as I want.” If we pray like this, we are commanding Him.
Prayer means – “Whatever You are doing, I accept it. Whatever You will do ahead will also be right for me, because my problem is not mine, it is Yours. Whatever is good for me, You will surely give me.”
God Relationship
Prayer is not giving instructions to God, but telling Him our heart and knowing His will. It should be mind-to-mind, not only by words.
None of us knows what is good or bad for us. This knowledge only stays in the hands of God. It is the best way to keep the mind open to accept guidance, to ask for courage and faith to use it.
“O God, please give me strength. I pray that I can patiently wait for Your will.”
Through prayer and meditation, we can increase our true connection with God and pray that He may only do what He thinks is right for us.
Many times while living with an alcoholic we become so busy that we don’t even have time for prayer. At that time, sit quietly for some time and ask yourself – do I have any existence apart from God?
Can I solve any problem without His help? Just as I face problems daily while living with an alcoholic, in the same way I need His guidance daily. We have to accept that without God’s meditation we are nothing – neither today nor tomorrow – because He is the Supreme Power.
He can finish our problem in a single moment. Only God never asks anything in return; in all other relations there are always demands.
Never give orders to God in prayer like – “O God, I want my husband back, but only if he leaves alcohol.” That will be like giving Him instructions, because He already knows what is right and wrong for us.
While praying, don’t focus on what is right for me. Instead, focus that You know what is right for me, so You do that.
God’s Will
While praying, none of us knows what is good or bad for us. We just keep asking, but true knowledge is leaving it in the hands of God – that is real prayer.
When we are extremely troubled because of alcoholism, when we find nothing except hopelessness, then we can only say, “Lord, please help me” – and He really helps.
When we ignore Him too much, and when a human is passing through the peak of suffering, then he gives God the chance to help.
Praying means expressing our feelings with gratitude.
When we are living with alcoholism for a long time, and can again enjoy our loved one becoming healthy from this disease, then maybe God joined us with the alcoholic just so that through prayer we may connect with Him.
Most people remember God more in sorrow and less in happiness. But should we not remember God also in our happy state? We should – because anyone can pray in pain and need, but only a few thank God even in joy. That is the true devotee, who remembers and thanks God even in happiness.
So, if you are troubled by an alcoholic person in your family, remember this: the problem will not be solved by crying, shouting, or fighting. Leave it only to that higher power, and learn to live for yourself.
Alcoholism is a very big problem. It is easy to say “learn to tolerate an alcoholic,” but only those who suffer can really understand. Maybe you also have such a person in your family who drinks too much and then fights at home. If you are also troubled, first learn to live for yourself – not only for the alcoholic.
Because he is a patient of a disease, but we are not. Do not try to become his God. Do not think, “How will he drive the car back home?” – because his God is with him. Instead, pray to God for your problem – “O God, You can finish this problem in a single moment which is beyond me.”
Now this problem is not mine, it is Yours. Taking me out of it is Your work, not mine. And without you even knowing, the problem will finish.
If someone close to you has this problem, share this subject, because very few people understand that an alcoholic is a sick person.
Wrong beliefs about alcoholics
Most people think he drinks to trouble others. But the truth is, even he does not want to trouble – he is suffering because of his illness.
Have you ever thought, if someone is suffering from cancer or any dangerous disease, do you fight with him? No. Then why fight with the alcoholic, who is also a patient of depression?
Just as we don’t fight with sick people, and instead pray for them, the same we should do for alcoholics too.
So if you are troubled by an alcoholic, just pray to God, and one day He will definitely accept your prayer. This is 100% true, because He can do anything. That invisible power is one such power that can do miracles in a single moment. We have heard and seen miracles happen.
Alcoholism: A Disease, Not Just a Habit
Drinking alcohol is not only a bad habit, it can also be a mental and physical disease. Often family members blame the alcoholic, but in reality he is suffering from depression, stress, or some inner problem.
What to Do When There Is an Alcoholic in the House?
Keep faith in God – Don’t take the problem as your burden, leave it to Him.
Pray calmly – Shouting will not solve anything. Pray silently for guidance.
Learn to live for yourself – Remember, the alcoholic is sick, but you are not. Give importance to your life.
Don’t order God – Prayer means, “Lord, do what You feel is right.”
Be patient – Miracles don’t happen immediately, but faith always brings solution in the right time.
Wrong Assumptions About Alcoholics
People think the alcoholic troubles his family on purpose.
The truth is, just like we don’t blame cancer patients, in the same way alcoholics are also suffering from mental illness.
We should pray for them, not fight.
What Is True Prayer?
Prayer is not asking God for things, but asking for guidance.
It is peace for the mind and medicine for the soul.
When we hand over our problems to God, He stands as our shield.
Motivational Quotes
“If the problem is big, God is even bigger. Just keep faith.”
“When we leave our problem to God, miracles begin.”
“Don’t try to change others, learn to make yourself strong.”
“Peace comes when we hand ourselves to God.”
“After every dark night, there is a morning. Be patient.”
“We are not the makers of destiny, we are partners in God’s plan.”
“Life is only as hard as we think. Faith in God makes it easier.”
“Prayer is not the solution of the problem, it is the right direction.”
“When someone leaves you, remember God Himself holds your hand.”
“Hope is that power which shows us the way even in darkness.”
Last Words
While living with an alcoholic, always remember – we cannot become his God. Live your own life, and let the alcoholic also live.
This disease is so painful that it cannot be written fully in one article, but just leave it to God. Only He can take us out of it. We can only pray.
Conclusion
If there is an alcoholic in your family, do not make yourself sad with worry. Remember:
👉 You cannot change the alcoholic – only God can.
👉 Value your own life and get peace through prayer.
👉 Alcoholism is a disease, not just a habit.
👉 Live your life, not just for the alcoholic.
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